Body-based practices that center sensations of gendering pleasure.
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For me, it's the practice of listening to the ways my soma (body) communicates through sensations / images / memories / vibes and more, then learning how to interpret that information. It's a skill set we can build up with practice!⁠⁠
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I used to feel very few sensations unless they were assertive/strong. I found light/soft touches to be bothersome, annoying, or couldn't sense them at all. So, I started with those more certain sensations that I knew I enjoyed, like physical exertion and sensual pain. ⁠⁠
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Over time I practiced noticing and then inquiring into what brought me a sense of aliveness from those sensations. I got super specific with myself by asking, "What is it I am enjoying, specifically? What do I want/seek to feel in this situation? What feelings and thoughts do I associate with those sensations? What am I doing to instigate/get those sensations in my body?"⁠⁠

I love to use the practice of noticing to discover pleasure sensations that feel yummy. I then get curious about whether they are associated with moments of joyful gendering for me. Let me give you an example of this in practice:

I have a sense of aliveness when I bicycle hard and fast. This "aliveness" is similar to when I feel particularly aligned in my gendering. But why is this -- besides the kick ass chemical cocktail produced in my body from the joy of doing something that makes me happy?

⁠⁠So, to start...I needed to notice. One way to do this is to slow down, notice the sensations in my body, (insert kindly suggestion akin to "just take a bubble bath" and it'll be easier). Except that cycling slow bores the hell out of me! And slowness usually leads me to stillness that blocks my access to sensations.

So ⁠⁠instead, I started with what I enjoy and what I know gives me lots of feedback sensations. That is, speed rocketing through the city.

I didn't try to change anything. On each ride, I began a practice of asking myself, "What am I experiencing ON my body at this moment"? ⁠⁠⁠⁠

WIND!

I found out that the wind in my face helps cool the now near-constant heat from testosterone. ⁠⁠

SWEAT!

The sweat on my back tickles, making me tighten my core and round my back. This reminds me how much I love my breastless chest. ⁠⁠

AIR!

I gulped for air as I stopped at lights and corners, feeling my chest heaving. From within those breaths, I remember how they felt strained under 7 pounds of fat tissue.⁠⁠

All I knew at the start of this inquiry was the fact that I cycle too damned fast and I like it that way. But through this practice of asking myself what I felt specifically, I discovered that cycling hard rewards me with a scrumptious brain chemical cocktail AND glimmers of gendering euphoria.

I knew I was seeking those sensations while riding, but hadn't realized how they map onto my new sense of joy in my body. Now, I look for those flashes of joy throughout, turning towards them with gratitude for their presence and the pleasure they grant me in those tiniest of moments.